As we go through the day we are presented with many choices. Choices we have control over and then those that are dependent upon the choices of others. If we are attempting to change our lives then it will not change if we keep make the same choices (headed down the wide path to the wide gate.) it is hard to do but we should really be... taking the narrow path to the narrow gate where there are more limited choices to make and really, it is not so dependent upon the choices of others because we've already decided upon the hard choices. In order to know which path to take just remember to pray for discernment, wisdom, and clarity. It really takes all three to make the right decision, not just "any" decision. God gave us free will to have the lives we want but happiness is not the same as joy. Happiness is rather fleeting, like our moods. Joy is that peace you feel when no matter what could go wrong in a day, it doesn't matter, your life is in a good place, your faith is strong, you have high hopes for all of your days, and you have God's gift of love in your life. It is your perspective to choose how you live your life. Now, take ownership of your life and use the tools at hand to choose well for your life.